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vale Kassie 
29th-Sep-2016 08:12 pm
I know I havent posted here for pages, but it the best place to write this. I found out today that  ethrosdemon has died. Kassie was a towering fandom figure with from Smallville fandom, and before that Buffy, Angel and SGA,back  when i was a n00b SPN fan back in 2006.  She was smart and snarky and a great writer.

Kassie was a huge influence on early Supernatural fandom. She'd been writing what was then WB RPS going back to David Boreanz/Christian Kane days and then onto Wellling/Rosenbaum, and then dragged J2 on board! As many did in those early eyars, she wrote both Gen and Wincest fics as well.

I think it was Kassie who introduced me to the term fandom husbandry - the idea that a fandom, especially a new one,  needs fans who do the building and caretaking the infratructure of fandom. She was committed to nurturing fandom culture, at the same time as having enough of the Bitter Old Fandom Queen in ehr to make her viscious funny about those annoying or dumb fans she referred to as "fan poodles". She was of course the founder of WinchesterCon aka Wincon which was an amazing acheivement and one that those of us who attended over the years will never forget.

Kassie was passionate and opinionated and funny, but also mercurial and difficult to be friends with. We hadnt been in touch for a few years. I wont forget her though, I'll remember having my first fish tacos with her on the Santa Monica pier, and arguing politics, She got be surprisingly coy about sex, and I remember her being actually shocked at one Wincon when she realised she was with a group of people who were part of a secret weecest fic group!

Supernatural fandom very much owes part of what it is today to ethrosdemon
29th-Sep-2016 10:49 am (UTC)

I am legitimately stunned, I was just having a conversation with her the other week.

Do we

I mean, obviously you don't have to post this publicly if it's not appropriate, or at all even, but do we know what happened??

We have lost a fandom great.

29th-Sep-2016 11:18 am (UTC)
Ill message you.
29th-Sep-2016 11:51 am (UTC)
30th-Sep-2016 12:58 am (UTC)
a couple of days ago
29th-Sep-2016 01:27 pm (UTC)
I am in shock. Is there any way you can message me with more information, especially if you know about any arrangements?
30th-Sep-2016 01:00 am (UTC)
I believe her family aren't doing any public events such as an obituary or a memorial .
29th-Sep-2016 02:38 pm (UTC)
Oh, no, that is just too bad. I'm so very sorry to hear. Thank you for passing on the news.
29th-Sep-2016 04:44 pm (UTC)
Oh, fuck. Gonna have to text my best friend and let her know. They were pretty close.
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29th-Sep-2016 06:42 pm (UTC)
I am sorry I had to start your day with this. :(
29th-Sep-2016 09:50 pm (UTC)
I'm destroyed you needed to start our days with this but I'm very thankful because I'd hated to hear elsewhere. I'm not sure what to do for self-care now. Before I just always could read the fic that Kassie wrote for Jilli and I.

Please let us know, missyjack, if there is anything we can do for family or friends or donate in her memory.
30th-Sep-2016 04:06 am (UTC)
Kassie requested no memorial arrangements. Her mother asked that if people feel moved, to donate to a local animal shelter.
1st-Oct-2016 03:22 am (UTC)
I can't believe she didn't have a fanlore entry before, so I made one. http://fanlore.org/wiki/Ethrosdemon (Fanlore is open, fans are invited to make an account, wait 4 hours, and edit pages)
29th-Sep-2016 06:39 pm (UTC)
I cannot believe she's just gone.
29th-Sep-2016 06:50 pm (UTC)
I'm so sad. This is shocking. What happened?

We knew each other well enough to wave as we passed, but I'm going to miss her. She was a snarky, talented, welcoming light in fandom, in general, and 2016 can just go to hell.
29th-Sep-2016 08:40 pm (UTC)
Hi, thanks for posting about Kassie. You've prompted me to post as well. I learned about her death last night and I didn't even think to post on LJ because I haven't posted here in years. I was very sorry to learn of her passing.
30th-Sep-2016 01:40 am (UTC)
Thanks for letting us know. Wincon brought a lot of joy to my life and Kassie was so much fun. She will be greatly missed.

Edited at 2016-09-30 02:00 am (UTC)
30th-Sep-2016 03:54 am (UTC)
Oh no. Oh, no. Dammit.
30th-Sep-2016 08:48 am (UTC)
Thank you for posting about this (I saw it on your twitter and came here), since I would otherwise not have known! I did not know her well or ever meet in person, but had exchanged various comments and was very fond of her.

I feel like somebody should get lj to put her account in memorial mode but I am not close enough to the source for it to be me - and I'm not sure who is? Argh, the lj diaspora has gotten so... diasporic.

Edited at 2016-09-30 08:48 am (UTC)
30th-Sep-2016 09:09 am (UTC)
Yes so many people knew Kassie - she was so important in so many fandoms.

Thats a good idea about memorial mode for her LJ - I see what can be done!
30th-Sep-2016 09:10 am (UTC)
That's awesome, thank you!
30th-Sep-2016 07:20 pm (UTC)
That's a lovely thing to do. I spent probably too long last night going though her lj. It was hard because I knew that of all the things I've have commented on or have had conversations, they would never happen.

I'm the office manager of the veterinary clinic on a nearby military installation.

We make a donation every time we need to euthanize a patient. And we absolutely never euthanize for convenience.

Our clients never know that we do any of this at all.

If there is a charity that Kassie liked or her family would like donations to go to, I can see about sending to that charity for a while.

1st-Oct-2016 01:58 am (UTC)
Kassie didnt want any memorial but her family said if people wanted they could donate to any animal charity in her memory,
30th-Sep-2016 02:39 pm (UTC)
This is... I don't even know what to say. We were talking only the other week, and she had all this new stuff with Sean, and. JFC. You're right that she could be mercurial and difficult and combative, but honestly those were some of the things I liked about her. Do we know what happened? I'm not asking out of prurient interest, just. Just. Damn it.
1st-Oct-2016 01:59 am (UTC)
It was liver failure. Apparently she'd been diagnosed with liver disease about a year ago.
30th-Sep-2016 04:35 pm (UTC)
...well, dammit.
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